I've manipulated my husband by strategically sleeping with him for more than 20 years

I've been married for going on 30 years. Many, many years ago I realized that on the weekends if I got up in the morning and did whatever I needed to do (made breakfast, took care of kids, cleaned, etc) my husband would just stay in bed all day and watch TV. If I wanted to take the kids somewhere, or suggested we go shopping or hiking or hang out with friends or literally anything, my husband would say he's worked hard all week and he wants to just relax, so we'd do nothing all weekend long. BUT if I started the morning by sleeping with him, shortly after we were done he'd get up and take a shower and be ready to go conquer the world.

So if I want to have a lazy day at home, I get up and do whatever I want. But if I want to go do something, I sleep with him first thing in the morning. I know I'm intentionally manipulating him, and I don't actually care because I feel like he's getting what he wants, and so am I.

About two years ago, I said hello to some guy at the gym by mistake. He said hello back, and that was it, there was no turning back.

We've been saying hello every time we meet for two years now. I have no idea who he is, what his name is, or how we supposedly know each other. I think he knows about the same about me.

But it’s too late to end it, we have a very long and serious relationship.