1. Every wrong step I take puts my life in jeopardy.
People think that I don't put in any effort or try to earn money. But this is not an easy job. There is no way to sue or report misconduct.
2. Not all sex work involves actual sexual intercourse.
Strippers, content creators, and professional dominatrixes are all considered sex workers, yet we never engage in sex with our clients. So, please keep this in mind—do not make assumptions or propose inappropriate services. It is extremely disrespectful.
3. When I was 19, I worked as a stripper for a few months. I’m 30 now, and I haven't done it since, but I am so glad I did. First of all, it was the most supportive and positive atmosphere of any job I’ve ever held. The DJs, security staff, management, dancers, and waitstaff all supported one another and were always on our side. I’m sure it’s not like this in every club, but that is exactly how it was in mine.
Secondly—and most importantly—I went into it thinking I had hit rock bottom, but it turned out to be one of the most empowering experiences of my life. Before that, I felt embarrassment and shame regarding any of my sexual impulses. My time dancing taught me to embrace my sexuality and sensuality. And I believe that is a crucial part of self-acceptance as a whole.
Today, I live a life I love, and I doubt that would have happened if I hadn't taken that step. Being a stripper isn't always something sordid. In the years since, whenever I’ve told people about it, I’ve often been asked: «Oh, you were a stripper...? I'm so sorry.» 4. People assume that we are constantly obsessed with sex and sexually aroused—even when we are on a genuine date.
We are human beings, after all, and we aren’t always «in the mood,» regardless of what we do for a living. Sometimes I just want to eat some ice cream and watch *Grey’s Anatomy*, so please don’t assume that I want to have sex non-stop simply because I’m a sex worker.
5. Sex work isn’t just something undertaken by people who have survived violence or abuse. I was in a loving relationship (though it took my partner some time to come to terms with my profession), and I never hid my work from my friends.
In a single year, I earned more than I had in five years at a conventional job. I didn’t use drugs, I never engaged in unprotected sex, and, by and large, I was treated well. I faced physical danger a couple of times, but that was because one of my colleagues—with whom I was working in tandem—had lied about the services she was providing. I was always upfront: «This is what you’re paying for my time, and I’m not going to deceive you.» I found that this approach always worked well.
Currently, I hold a management position at one of the country’s largest healthcare organizations. I am married, and I have a wonderful life. I wish people would understand that sex workers don’t need to be pitied. While many women may enter the industry against their will, those of us who choose to do so make that choice consciously. Could I have found work in a different field? Yes. But I had a fantastic time. I loved the women I worked with, and I encountered some truly incredible experiences. I met celebrities who were in town for concerts, NHL players, and TV personalities. It’s easier to hire a girl who is guaranteed to leave—and won’t want you to call her—than to try to pick someone up at a bar. That was fun!
I can say one thing: I’ve seen more «happily» married men than representatives of any other demographic group.
6. I feel people mistakenly assume that individuals enter the sex industry simply because they lack money.
This isn't true; in a sense, it’s rude and completely unfounded.
7. One thing men are *always* wrong about is thinking that I’ll give them a discount or a freebie just because they’re «handsome,» have a «big dick,» or aren't «some ugly old guy with a small dick.»
For one thing, many of my clients are young and attractive. Oh—and having a big dick ABSOLUTELY does not mean you’re good in bed. The stigma perpetuated by the porn industry—that big dicks are inherently great—is terrible.
Furthermore, people ask me if I chose this line of work because I need sex. No. Absolutely not. If I wanted sex, I could easily get it without being a sex worker. I have bills to pay, after all!
8. I always tell people: «Every job has its pros and cons. This job, however, has nothing but cons—cons that will affect you for the rest of your life.» Choose wisely.
9. Last night, a client said to me: «Being a stripper is easy.» It isn't. It is incredibly difficult and grueling—both physically and emotionally.
I started stripping after losing my previous job due to the pandemic, and at first, things were okay. But the stress of financial insecurity really takes a heavy toll on your mental health. It breeds deep self-doubt. Sometimes truly awful people come into the clubs just to cause a scene and spout nasty insults—sometimes right to your face. It’s especially bad when they’re drunk. Nowadays, the worst thing that can happen with clients is the mindset that they don't need to leave a tip because «you make plenty of money as a stripper anyway.» After dancing all night—whether in the VIP area or on stage—your entire body aches, especially your joints, knees, back, and hips. Everything you see on YouTube is pure fantasy. Don't let them fool you.
10. There is a misconception that we don't deserve basic human respect, and that anyone can do whatever they please with us. We are NOT commodities, and the fact that you are paying does not mean we have no boundaries.
11. Between the ages of 20 and 21, I worked as an escort. For the first time in my life, I was living on my own—and as we all know, life is expensive! I called a number listed in a newspaper ad, and within just a week, I was earning $100 an hour—which was far better than the $6.85 an hour I was making at my retail job.
My friends knew what I was doing, and I would call one of my girlfriends at the end of every night to let her know I had made it home safely from work. I felt secure because I was working for a man who would drive me to and pick me up from every appointment. Yes, I had to give him a cut of the earnings, but it was well worth it for the sake of my safety.
The biggest misconception was that I felt compelled to do this work, or that I had no other choice. In reality, everything was my choice—from the hours I made myself available to the type of interactions I agreed to. All in all, it really boosted my confidence, and I learned a great deal about myself and my sexuality.
I stopped doing it because I had saved up enough money to buy a house and move to a small town. Shortly thereafter, I met my current husband. Early in our relationship, I told him that I had worked in the sex industry; and while it took him some time to process it, he accepted it, and now we simply don't talk about it anymore.
12. I don't understand why people assume that sex workers either hate their jobs because they’re forced into them, or absolutely adore them. I’m not particularly fond of filming explicit scenes or having sex with strangers, but I don’t think it’s any worse than working at a supermarket. Plus, it pays significantly more money for far fewer hours. So, for me, the choice is obvious.
13. It really frustrates me to see the assumptions people make about my clients. Of course, there are plenty of unpleasant and repulsive people among them. But on the whole—based on my experience working in phone sex and webcamming—my regular clients are just nice, normal people. I respect them and allow them to take up my time because they respect my boundaries and my rates.
People used to constantly ask me if my phone clients were lonely, or perverts, and so on. But they are simply people who know what they like sexually. For some, it’s a component of their sexual relationship with a partner. For others, it’s a specific sexual interest that is simply easier to pay for. All kinds of people pay for sex, pleasure, and companionship. And I’m one of them! I love watching other webcam models and tipping them!
14. Most clients are boring and stupid, and you find yourself constantly checking the clock.
I really wish people would understand that working in the full-service sex industry is enjoyable not because sex is our hobby. It is our job.
15. I’ve been working as a stripper for four years now, and many of my clients and friends simply assume that I’m giving blowjobs left and right. Everyone thinks that all dancers and sex workers do nothing but that, but it’s not true. We all have our own boundaries and rules. There are clients who say, «It’s fine—I always do this at this club» (referring to paying for sex or a blowjob), and I always have to reply, «Well, honey, you’re certainly not going to do that with *me*!» It amazes me how many people misunderstand this line of work. Some sex workers do certain things, while others don't. We are all different because we are all individuals. You can't just generalize and rely on stereotypes.
I also hate it when I’m dancing with a guy and he says, «I can tell you’re turned on,» or «Are you about to cum?» Like, seriously? Sometimes, sure, I might get turned on. But 99% of the time, I’m just doing my job and counting the songs in my head. And I’m probably not going to cum just from rubbing against you, sweetie.
Finally, I really dislike the common assumption that sex workers have no other options—that we’re uneducated or «troubled.» I graduated from college with a bachelor’s degree, and I work as a stripper not because I lack ambition or brains. I work as a stripper because I don’t want to spend my prime years sitting in rush-hour traffic twice a day, staring at a screen for hours on end, or having someone constantly tell me what to do and how to do it. I don’t want to work 40 hours a week only to be paid a pittance for my labor.
So many people dance to gain freedom and independence, and to make a ton of money doing something genuinely interesting and inspiring—all while having the time to truly *live*! Sex work isn’t for everyone, but for me, it’s a true passion. It has given me self-confidence and freedom. Anyone who scoffs at the idea of working in the sex industry simply doesn’t have the right mindset for such a unique and beautiful profession.
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I’m not just fixing bugs; I'm proving that you don’t need a massive footprint to have a massive impact. Keeping the web fast, lean, and light.
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10. Guys don't give a damn about your nails, pantyhose, perms, high heels, or earrings. Sure, it creates a cool, cinematic vibe, but that’s not why we love you.
9. For a guy, conversation is a means of conveying information. We speak only if we have something to say. If there’s nothing to say—we say nothing. We don't need to exchange a lot of words to feel a connection.
8. After an orgasm, the already fairly empty space inside our heads becomes even more devoid of thought. And we like it that way. Just let us recover in peace and hang out in that mental void without having to strain our brains. Give us at least 3 or 4 months, and we’ll give you a call back.
7. Yes, we can live on a mattress and survive entirely on takeout. No, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Any comfort in a guy's life usually comes about solely thanks to the efforts of the woman in his life.
6. We don't mind springing for coffee, dinner, or anything else—but only for those who would be with us even without those perks. If we get the feeling that we’re somehow *obligated* to do it, the desire to do so vanishes completely.
5. We find it incredibly difficult to do things we don't see the point in. That’s why we often forget to buy flowers. It takes a conscious effort on our part to grasp that this sort of thing actually matters to a woman.
4. When a guy says he isn't thinking about anything, he means it—literally. There’s no need to rush in and try to «fix» that.
3. Men go through life with a subconscious urge to screw anything and everything that’s even remotely attractive. But we aren't animals, after all. So it’s not as if we *only* want sex; we crave tenderness, intimacy, and all the rest, too. It’s just that, almost without exception, if sex isn't on the table, the rest of it doesn't seem particularly interesting to us.
2. Unlike the average woman, the average guy receives pretty much zero active attention from the opposite sex; consequently, even simple politeness can strike a guy as intense flirting. This isn't a sign of stupidity—it’s simply a lack of experience.
1. All of these points might turn out to be bullshit, subjective perception, or trolling—figure it out for yourselves. Have a good day.
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More and more often, I notice a situation where people you grew up with, communicated with on equal terms, worked at the same job, etc. began to turn into certain beings who began to regard you solely as a source of enrichment\information\connections\free labor, etc.
Literally, a person just evaluates how you can be used for personal gains and that's it!
A person disappears when you contact him, he freezes off communication, and then when he needs it, he abruptly gets in touch and demands something… not getting what he want, starts to cause feelings of guilt, like old friends, etc. It looks very disgusting from the outside!
Or the situation is that you coordinate the date and time of the meeting with the person and there is no information at the agreed hour. Then it turns out that he «got» a better offer to spend time and he doesn't even warn you...
Ostentatious bragging about new connections and earnings. Like what you're doing is complete bullshit! But I'm a handsome guy who did this, got to know someone, etc. When you ask to «show me the ropes» he freezes...
I understand that this is the result of rotten capitalism… but the number of such transformed people is growing… It's like people are being replaced
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