I don't understand how people find the time and energy to cheat. Easier for women, they don't have to do anything; they'll be taken to the place, fucked, and even given money. But men need to spend money, find places to fuck, court her, and give her gifts. Basically, cheating is expensive, and you'll be embarrassed in front of your wife. It's easier just to jerk off.

@Mad

On a women's forum, the question was raised of how wives technically carry out infidelity. That is, how they hide extramarital affairs from their husbands, and how they avoid getting caught.

Anonymous

I tell my husband I'm going to the store or to a cafe with friends. My lover has his own apartment, he's single, I keep my cosmetics there so I can freshen up after passionate sex. If my husband calls, I always answer the phone and say I'll be home soon. We've been meeting with my lover for 5 years, and my husband has no suspicions.

Miracle

My friend could run away at night when the family was asleep, and she didn't care about anything! If there's a will, there's a way!

melena

Yes, if you really want to, you can fly to space! I met with my lover even during lunch breaks, or at night when everyone was asleep. I could leave work early, there are tons of ways.

Anonymous

It's not about cheating, but about having fun; a husband is one thing, a lover is something completely different. We call each other and meet, so what if my husband calls? Choose an option: I didn't hear the phone ring, the battery died, I was shopping, I forgot my phone at home, I was at the beautician's (and there was a queue!).

Mari

For me, it's very simple; it's even convenient for my husband. The main thing for him is that he's not bothered, neither morally nor physically. He might have sex once every six months at 43. So, what can I do? I can't climb the walls. And my lover, at 50, can do it twice in a row.

Anonymous

My lover lives in another city and comes to my town on business trips. He stays in a hotel, and there are no problems with meeting places. I sneak away from work early under a plausible pretext… for a business meeting, for example… and at home I say that today, let's say, it's a colleague's birthday at work.

Or that partners from another city are coming and I need to meet with them and have dinner at a restaurant (which, in principle, doesn't contradict the truth)… I can have a friend cover for me, saying I'm meeting her in the city and we decided to go shopping (my friend is in on it and will definitely cover for me, even if he calls her)… there are many things you can come up with. The main thing is not to come home too late… at least by ten o'clock, so as not to arouse unnecessary suspicion.

I.M.

And I have a married lover, and I'm married too. We develop cover stories together, and besides, friends, have some respect for age. He's 45, I'm 42, and of course, neither of us is going to get a divorce. He solves his sexual problems, and I solve mine. It may be cynical, but neither of us swears eternal love to each other, so at least it's more honest.

It's a silent agreement between two fairly mature people – not to raise highly moral issues and not to try to resolve relationship problems. We simply drop out of this crazy world for about three hours and relax.

Anon.

Of course, I understand intellectually that it's all terrible, but sometimes I can't help myself. I'm generally not supposed to go on business trips. The intoxicating smell of freedom and the feeling of absolute impunity do their job. It's like I completely lose control, and then I feel very ashamed.

At home, I'm a quiet and exemplary wife, but as soon as I'm away from home… oh my god. And men just cling to me! Either there's some kind of devilish glint in my eyes, or something else. In short, when I go on business trips with colleagues, I tell everyone, «People… hold me back and don't let me go crazy.» It doesn't always work.

Miya

And «You,» has it never occurred to you that some things have no explanation — passion, attraction, falling in love, the feeling of joy… they are inexplicable. There are generally few explainable things in nature. And arguments are inappropriate here!!! What kind of arguments could there be??? Happy, unhappy, satisfied, unsatisfied, etc., etc. — that's still NOT IT!!! Something simply drives you to this action and this step… A woman needs to be in a state of being in love, only then can she truly enjoy life… otherwise what??? Excuse me, to live and realize — «Life is shit, and at the end there's death»...??? Not because things are so bad at home..., but because at home THIS -, is no longer there, or maybe there's something else… adrenaline… not everyone probably understands this and not everyone needs it in life… BUT, we are all different....

Alena

And my lover got married to his wife in the winter, and he's still having a full-blown affair with me. Two hours isn't enough for me, I love going abroad with him. He also sends his wife away, I think she's also found a lover because she cried on the phone several times saying that her husband doesn't touch her: I heard it myself, I felt sorry for her. I told him, «Well, have sex with her on weekends, I'm not jealous,» but he said «it doesn't get hard for her.» I showed him various sex toys and suggested he try them with his wife. Now she calls him, sounding much more peaceful.

Inotona

you know, here I sit, read all this and smile. I have never understood those who support monogamous relationships. I have a lover, I spend more time with him than with my husband, because… the husband is always busy, and the lover is the opposite.) At the same time, my husband, of course, guesses that I have a man. By the way, everything is fine with sex, both with my husband and even more so with my lover, but one man is not enough for me.

And my husband says, “I knew who I married, I still love you, and even though you’re a little whore, you’re mine.” And this is what I want to say — we all love our husbands and lovers. but in different ways. That's why we don't change anything in life.

Julia

I’ll immediately express my position: I’m for it! And I won’t explain for a long time why. The advice is simple, they’ve all already been said: you have to lie in such a way that you don’t get caught. I go shopping, stay late at work (and in another office), sit in a cafe with friends, attend a meeting, etc., sometimes turn off the phone. I wrote it simply because the topic is close to me.

33

Yes, it’s interesting here. I'll join if you don't mind. We lived with our husband in perfect harmony for 10 years, and now we live in perfect harmony. Nothing has changed, believe it or not. He still loves me and wants me, and he is the best, if it weren’t for this, I wouldn’t live with him.

One thing BUT, he is not a romantic. Doesn't like to talk a lot, use gentle words, etc., etc. And I need it like air. For 10 years I got used to his silent love, and thought that I didn’t need anything else.

And then HE appeared. And I realized that I needed to hear: what a wonderful body I have, what a beautiful figure, and in general what I am all about. And a close relationship began. He is married, loves his wife, I am married, love my husband and would not trade him for anyone. I go out of my way, but I do everything so that my husband doesn’t find out anything. So what should we call it? I know what I’m doing badly, I know everything and understand everything.

Yalo

Do you honestly want everything here? — then before the wedding or after, honestly tell your husband/wife that you are going to cheat on them, if anything! Tell your lovers/mistresses that you are only using them! Then it will be right! And you are all lying! Vile and low!

And in general, judging by all the women here, one gets the impression that half of our country is impotent, who don’t need anything! And women are simply Females with a capital F. Have you tried to stir up your men? In the registry office you chose your destiny, a person for life, and you turn your ass towards him with your actions! They should be the closest people, but you’re lying like crazy! I'm sick of women, the weak ones, and men like that.

Viktor

I am the head of a small company. Unmarried. 32 years old. I always preferred to date married women. Over the past 3 years I have had about 20 of them. There is something shocking and contrary to the rules of internal morality in this and therefore sexually attractive. When dating a married woman, you feel that you are deceiving her spirituality: there is only an animal instinct and the awareness of violating all the taboos created by society.

You're having sex not just with a woman, but with someone's wife. You get a kick out of the fact that some stupid idiot (her husband) spent the best years of his life trying to start a family with her, believed her and sees in her the best thing he had in his life. I'm taking it for nothing. When I impale her on my penis, I impale her husband at the same time, their joint past experiences, their joy and happiness.

Ali

And my first one didn’t care where I was or what I was doing. I have a flexible work schedule, so I met my lover right in the morning and hung out for the whole day and no one called me or looked for me (from home). But I don’t cheat on my second husband, he’s enough for me, I don’t even want to look at others.

Pussy sausage

I have a lot of experience with cheating. True, I always strived for variety and did not acquire a permanent lover. Usually, I didn’t even tell my men that I was married, it’s easier that way). I was still a student, and there was a lot of time beyond my husband’s control. I met people in bars, clubs and on the Internet.