First, a little about myself — I’m 45 years old, I got married at 20, I’m still happy, I have two children. I have been working in the registry office for 25 years and would like to share my observations from the outside, or, more precisely, to address modern female representatives.

Although I am a woman myself, what has been happening to them for quite some time now is, to put it mildly, quiet horror. I never supported or condoned such actions and behavior, but on the contrary, I despised them. I've always wondered what's going on in your empty heads, modern ladies?

Yes, yes, empty ones! What have you sunk to? It makes your hair stand up when you look at the divorce statistics.

90% of divorces, and in most cases, are initiated by you yourself, my “dear” ladies.

This figure, for our small provincial town, with its population not exceeding half a million, is very large. However, this nightmare is happening throughout our vast country.

Who is to blame for all this, you ask? Yes, you yourself, no need to point at men!

Look at how you treat men? Yes, as you like — as a consumer product, an ATM, a thing, a bull-producer, but not as a person.

The reasons for divorce seem to be written out as carbon copies — either you don’t have enough money, or your husband is an asshole, lets loose, drinks, etc., you can list them for a long time. Before marriage he was different and everything like that.

I’ll tell you a great secret or secret, as you like, men are the same as they were before marriage, and that’s how they remain in the process of family life. Only five percent of men out of a hundred, no more, who filed for divorce on their own, but only because his wife drank all the blood and ate his brain, found an outlet in the form of a mistress and got carried away.

Don’t make monsters and worthless men out of men, because you yourself are driving them to extremes.

Are you saying that this is not true? You always have little money, few clothes, shorts and other things.

You pint out to man — look at others, why isn't it like that with us?

Let's take out a loan to buy some junk, like an iPhone. You have to take out a mortgage to live happily.

You hang one collar after another on a man’s neck, especially for him, but not for yourself.

You get into problems yourself, and then a man has to sort them all out for you, because you don’t have enough brains to do more than get into some new shit.

Who gave you the right to chase and destroy a man like a racehorse, for the sake of your own whims? So that he works several jobs just to provide for your mercantile desires? When a man loves you and children, appreciate it. One of the tasks of a man is to help his children reach adulthood through paternal education. And you women behave like little, hysterical girls who were not given candy.

You are not able to support children without a man, or support yourself.

You, like bottomless black holes, pull the last out of a man.

If you believe that it is so easy to earn money, then why are you not able to earn as much as you need, your “beloved”, need?

Does a man owe you anything? Can you even hear yourself? You must also invest in your family as equals. If you didn’t know, until relatively recently, property and children, during a divorce, remained with the man.

You have let yourself go so much that sleeping with men who are just acquaintances for you, for a day or a night, has become commonplace. You are ready to lie under anyone just to get money, property, etc.

All this is so vile and disgusting, you have become worse than prostitutes. You judge other women — say she's a slut. Look at yourself first, how many “innocent” men have you had? After a divorce, just like before marriage, you go to great lengths, go around, so to speak, in circles, from hand to hand, men now call these people “Public Transport.”

You always blame men for everything, even for what happens to you, but what have you done to be happy and have strong families? Nothing really, you just whine about how bad everything is.

A woman is, first of all, a keeper of the home, and not a fireman who put out everything.

What have you done for your man, for your family? Did you give birth to a child, nag your husband, listen to all your friends, your mother? These are all your achievements in life, all your merits and awards that you awarded to yourself.

Men work as rescuers, serve in the army, make discoveries, shed blood in hot spots, surgery, cooks in the best restaurants in the world, scientists — all these are men. Women who actually accomplished something or did something worthy can be counted on the fingers of one hand, because for the most part they only leave at the expense of men.

It is because of people like you that it is extremely difficult for a woman, a natural woman who is truly ready to be a faithful and caring wife, a good mother, to find a man.

You have completely discredited the entire female sex — at first you pretend to be good, and a few years later, after you have took everything you wanted from your husband, you turn on the bitch and file for divorce, wave your hand at him from the “leaving train”, and, not only that, hang a whole carriage of long-term financial obligations on him and take away the children. Do you think that after all this, men will trust you?

Perhaps, but only the most outspoken rabble, decent, worthy men will bypass you, because they will see a catch even where there cannot be one. It is easier for them to lead an independent life than to risk their lives, resources, and health.

You need to appreciate and take care of your man. Without men, this world will wallow in vices and rot. Imagine for a moment that all the men disappeared at once and what then? Women won’t last long, everything around them will begin to collapse.

Appreciate your man, take care of him, otherwise you will become a Divorced with a Trailer, this is a stigma for life, do not deceive yourself, with such a status no one will need you. A divorced with a trailer does not sound proud, but low.

1. I don't know if it's just me, but that childish voice and silly, childlike behavior looks very creepy from the outside. It really repels me, and I don't find anything funny about it at all.

2. I used to work in an office where everyone was a woman. There were two other men, but they were overweight guys in their 60s with beer bellies. And I was the only fit young guy. The women constantly commented on my physique out loud. They stared. They touched me in various places. Many of them were married or went to church. Women can easily break gender stereotypes of behavior.

3. I'm in great shape, and the number of unfamiliar women who supposedly accidentally touched my arms, shoulders, and chest when I was on the street, in the store, on the subway, was far too high.

4. When women look at you and say something like, «If I were 10 years younger...» And I'm only 17, and she's twice my age. And if a 30-year-old man said that to a 17-year-old girl, the FBI would have been called a long time ago.

5. I block them, but they keep creating fake accounts and bothering me.

6. My wife demanded that I delete a photograph of an old friend of mine, whom I've known for over ten years, and who has long been married to a mutual friend of ours. This photograph is part of a group of eight pictures. It's dear to me as a memory. I didn't delete it. My wife first made a scene, then didn't talk to me for a week, then threatened divorce and division of my property, but after a month she calmed down.

7. Last weekend we were hanging out with a group of guys, there were six of us, and then some unfamiliar girl started circling around us like a lost puppy and wouldn't leave. She was attractive, but she so clearly craved attention that it felt creepy to give it to her. This girl was just looking at everyone, batting her eyelashes, and trying to hug everyone, but the guys just awkwardly distanced themselves from her.

Now imagine if a guy did that to girls. He would be called a creepy guy and the police would be called.

8. Honestly, women definitely exploit men's emotions. We may not cry in the movie theater, but we are not immune to deep, painful emotional wounds. It's easier for women to criticize men for their appearance, height, weight, or income. Men can't criticize women without being called pigs.

So yes, women who nitpick men for the most insignificant reasons are usually creepy and arrogant. And that's a huge red flag for any guy.

9. Double standards regarding sexual harassment. In a store, some idiot grabbed my butt. So hard that it left a bruise. Everyone around just laughed. But if I had done that, I would have spent at least the next night in a police station.

10. Wherever I go, I'm constantly asked at home afterwards if anyone flirted with me. What the hell! I went to an American football game. Who would flirt with me during a game?

11. Hypocrisy regarding sexism.

If a guy hits a girl: «What an asshole!»

If a girl hits a guy: «Well, what did he do to you?»

An older man harasses a much younger woman: «What a scumbag!»

An older woman flirts with a much younger man: «You got what you wanted, girl!»

Jokes about small penises: funny!

Jokes about fat men: funny!

Jokes about men, especially short ones, are funny!

Jokes about women's appearance and the lack of intelligence of some representatives of the fair sex are categorically unacceptable.

Some women with fake boobs, fake asses, fake lips, fake nails, and fake facial features are looking for real men for some reason.

— Valentin, why don't we go get some vodka? Lena suggested.

«What do you mean?» Valentine did not understand.

— Literally. Lena explained. — We'll find a dubious cafe, grab some iced vodka, a simple snack, and slowly get drunk. Judging by your face, you don't shy away from such entertainment.

— What an unusual woman you are, Lena! Valentine marveled.

—The usual one, Valentine. Lena shook her head. — I also want to hear about the charming sparkle of my eyes, the dazzling smile, about how I took away your peace forever. But I understand that this is all the average man can say only after three or four shots of strong alcohol.

And I, after three shots of vodka, am already all in Valhalla and mentally fighting with Odin for the right to be the first to taste the sacrificial deer. Therefore, all this romance certainly gets into me, but I don't remember it. This, Valentin, by the way, is the black dualism and the tragedy of the existence of a modern woman.

— Well, you can drink through one, for example. I drink two shots and you drink one. — Valentin gallantly offered a solution.

— The hell I will. Lena said.

1. I usually check right away if I'm okay. Maybe there are food stains on the clothes somewhere, or food is left on the face. You can't tell if he's evaluating you or just looking at you.

2. Careful peeks through a book or phone seem very pleasant to me and are not so flattering. It's just as cute when a guy turns away in embarrassment because you caught his eye. I immediately smile and blush. It's nice to know that someone is attracted to you. But if a person looks at you with obvious lust, does not look away and grins like an evil clown, it's immediately obvious.

3. I'm trying to figure out who he's really looking at. Probably some pretty girl. I was at an event. At some point, everyone, and I too, started dancing. Suddenly, a handsome man started making circles around me. And I just stopped and started looking around to figure out who he wanted to dance with.

4. It depends on the situation. Recently, a guy came up to my car and leaned on the hood to check out my breasts. It was so disgusting. I was even upset because the guy was cute. In general, it depends on whether you know how to behave or not.

5. Since this rarely happens, I always think that someone has finally seen a person in me, and even an attractive one.

6. When a guy pays attention to me, it immediately seems to me that he has decided that I am strange, or something is wrong with my clothes. The idea that he might like me seems so incredible that it doesn't even occur to me.

7. When you catch quick glances or playful glances, it's very flattering, and my day gets a little better. But when people stare at you without looking away, you immediately feel uneasy, and even sometimes you begin to fear for your life.

8. It depends on whether I find him attractive or not. I'm usually stared at by men over 30, and it's creepy because I'm 18. In such a situation, I try to move to the side where I am not visible, although there have been several cases that I have been chased. If you like a guy, I can look back at him and make eyes at him.

9. I answer the girls who write here that they have never been evaluated. Yes, you just didn't notice it, because most men don't stare openly, but work with a passing glance, like a ninja. It takes us less than a second to evaluate you.

10. I hope he doesn't come over to get acquainted and ruin my day. I came to the hardware store to shop for repairs, not to look for new friends. I'm surprised, but men in construction stare at me most of the time.

11. To be honest, I don't like meeting people in inappropriate places at all. But if someone asks for it, then on the one hand you have to be polite so as not to offend the person by refusing, on the other hand, many people do not understand the word «no» or take it for a hidden «yes».

12. Listen to advice from a slightly tired lady. Never follow a girl, assessing her from behind. Don't touch her if you decide to get to know her. Don't stare openly, don't point a finger at her. Leave immediately if she has made it clear that the sympathy is not mutual. Always behave respectfully. If you want to compliment her, praise her clothes, jewelry, hairstyle, but not her figure. Always stand up for a girl if you see someone starting to behave suspiciously. In short, just be a normal person.

The more successful a free man becomes, the more aggressively women react to him. And it's not that you're bad, it's that you're too good.

1. «Uncontrolled freedom»

The first thing that infuriates women is your absolute freedom. You can move to another city, change jobs, or start a new hobby… And all this without regard to the «other half». In my practice, there was a case when a successful bachelor just bought a ticket and flew to Bali for six months. Try to pull this off in a marriage!

2. «Financial independence»

Oh yes, it makes them especially angry! You manage your money as you see fit. No arguments about whether you need a new console or whether it's better to buy a fur coat. Your wallet is your rules.

3. «High self-esteem»

A bachelor who is happy with his life is like a red rag for a bull. Women are used to the idea that a man should feel inferior without a relationship. And then you show up, happy and self-sufficient.

4. «Social challenge»

There is still a stereotype in society that a successful man must be married. And when you break this pattern, it causes aggression. You are like living proof that you can be happy without a stamp in your passport.

5. «Quality of life»

Do you know what else pisses them off? How good you look! In my practice, I constantly see how bachelors at 40+ look better than their married peers. No beer belly, fresh look, fashionable clothes.

6. «No manipulation»

You cannot be manipulated through guilt. «All normal men have been married for a long time»- remember that phrase? It doesn't work on you, and it pisses them off.

7. «Personal growth»

Free time = self-development. While married friends spend the weekend at their mother-in-law's cottage, you learn a new language, invest in investments, or conquer mountain peaks.

8. «Social competition»

You're a walking reminder to their exes that you can live a different life. Every successful bachelor's story is a blow to the stereotype of «after a divorce, life is over.»

9. «Myth Busting»

Last but not least. You are destroying the myth that a man cannot be happy without a woman. And that's probably what pisses them off the most.

P.S. Remember, being a bachelor is not a sentence, it's a privilege. And it's up to you to decide how to use your freedom.